From Fear to
Creativity
The Natural Law
of Love
By
Reverend Eleanor R. Fisher, Psy. D
Another name for God
is Love.
The
Natural Law of Love is characterized by the development of love that is
unconditional, unchanging and permanent. As such it is the creative
source and power of all life. Love is a state of being and has the
capacity to lift others and accomplishes great triumphs because it has no
agenda other that its own expression…. Another name for love is Agape.
On rare
occasions we find ourselves in the presence of Agape. A recent experience
caused me to become transformed by the luminosity in my office as I observed
the expression of this extraordinary form of love.
One of the
blessings of my ministry is my joy in officiating at marriages. Recently,
I received a call from a woman named Jane who was interested in having me
perform her wedding. After chatting a bit on the phone, we arranged that
both she and her fiancé would come to my office to meet and discuss exactly how
they wanted the ceremony. Mid morning, Wednesday, October 10th came and
both Jane and her fiancé John arrived promptly for their appointment at Deer
Cove.
They were
both attractive looking people, yet there was an anxiety about John that I sensed
and a certain contrasting calmness exuding from Jane. My first impression
of Jane was that she was a woman of great charisma, who is, ‘in charge.’
She emanated a dynamic energy that enveloped her, yet at the same time there
was a helplessness that seemed to waft around her like a faint perfume.
John, on the other hand, seemed to be attempting to put forth great effort to
be jovial, happy and calm. When he sat down, he kept taking deep breaths
to calm himself. Jane kept looking at John and with each look they shared
it was as if I could feel the presence of love and light enveloping them in a
bond that was infinite and larger than life.
I learned
that Jane is forty years old, has three children, whose ages are fifteen,
sixteen and ten. John is sixty years old, has two children whose ages are
twenty-six and twenty-nine.
Our meeting was very
pleasant and I learned that Jane is a Spiritualist who knows that life
continues after the change called death. She had planned out very
carefully what it was that was to be included in the wedding ceremony and kept
asking John, if he agreed to all that she said. His responses were
always, “that sounds fine.” However, Jane had two requests that she felt
were crucial to their vows. The first was to substitute, “For all time,”
in place of the phrase, “Till death do us part.” Of course, I agreed,
though I did wonder why that was important to her.
At that
point, our discussion seemed to come to a mutually satisfactory conclusion and
I rose from my chair and asked, “Well, since everything seems agreed upon,
shall we now reconfirm the date and time?”
Jane
looked over to John who had turned a pale color and responded to me by saying,
“We need to take a drive and talk this over. We’ll be back in an hour to confirm.
Is that alright?” Quite surprised, I said, “Yes,” never expecting to see
them again. An hour later, my doorbell rang and Jane walked in saying
that they were ready to confirm the arrangements.
As she was
leaving my office for the second time, she said, “I’m dying of cancer of the
blood and this is very hard on John.” I know that we will always be
together which is why we are being married now, knowing that we will be
together for eternity. I was at a loss as to how to respond except to hug
her and say, “God is blessing you both now and forever.”
The Law of
Love is universal and relationships of “I” and “Thou” develop co-mingled with
all-encompassing empathy and universal love. John and Jane have developed
an eternal personal relationship with God. Within this relationship they
and their children have found calm, accord, happiness and prosperity.
Their friends and family are by their side in this sacred passage, knowing that
we are all blessed by their example and the presence of Agape.